MYlifezone tagged me this topic 2 months ago, but I have no time to blog and I dun want to simply write something, because I think this topic is really relevant to me, and I want to wait until I work for sometime before I can tell you how I feel.First of all, I would said after being a mother, my lifestyle wouldn’t be mine anymore, any change of my lifestyle will affecting many people, e.g. daddy and wai wai. So it takes me a while to consider a full time job. After all the encouragement from daddy, po po and friends, only I decide to go back to work again.
1) Personal time
SAHM: Even through staying at home, but it doesn’t mean you have your personal time. The schedule is full, learn how to make use of time.
FTWM: Financial Use money from own saving or daddy sponsor, so have to be careful on every single cent I spend. Of course is better to have a stable income lah! Can make decision on how to spend money, can plan a better education for my son, can plan for oversea annual trip and etc.
2) Job satisfaction
SAHM: Can only work while wai wai went to bed, so normally try to finish the job fast fast by produce the design as simple as possible.
FTWM: Can concentrate on work and produce better quality design, and have time to learn more. More job satisfaction.
3) Energy
SAHM: Very tired by taking care my son, he is a super active boy.
FTWM: Even through I worked 2 shift (morning in office and night as nanny), but not as bad as working full time nanny.
4) Wai Wai
SAHM: Can wake up later, and no need to travel around. But sometime a bit boring, because can only play with mommy, so he miss daddy more.
FTWM: Now he miss mommy more, but he get to meet and learn more things from other people.
5) Daddy
SAHM: More freedom, but also more “bills” to pay.
FTWM: Have to help mommy to do house work on the weekend. And can share the “bills” with mommy also.
6) Relationship with Daddy
SAHM: Too tired to talk to daddy, or some time wai wai disturbing.
FTWM: We enjoy going to work together, we can chit chat during traffic jam, sometime have breakfast together and etc. We spend more time together and have new topic to talk about, e.g. work and "more" wai wai's story.
7) TV programme
SAHM: Never miss my favorite TV program on Astro.
FTWM: Always missed my favorite TV program and even recorded the program, I can’t find time to watch it.
8) Food
SAHM: Always eat home cook food only, only weekend daddy will bring mommy and wai wai out for meal.
FTWM: Everyday can have different food, Malay, Chinese, western and etc. Until dun know what to eat already.
9) Outfit
SAHM: My mom said I look like auntie.
FTWM: Like fashion show everyday, have more reason to buy cloths.
10) Priority
SAHM: My son
FTWM: Still my son, this will never change.
Conclusion is I did not regret to quit from my previous job for having a baby, and be a stay-at-home-mom (or rather a work-at-home-mom) with Wai Wai until he turn one and a half year old. Now I feel I should go back to work, to continue my career. But if any time Wai Wai need mommy, I will quit my job with no question ask.
Also see what CutiePricessMummy said about this.
