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FTWM vs SAHM

MYlifezone tagged me this topic 2 months ago, but I have no time to blog and I dun want to simply write something, because I think this topic is really relevant to me, and I want to wait until I work for sometime before I can tell you how I feel.

First of all, I would said after being a mother, my lifestyle wouldn’t be mine anymore, any change of my lifestyle will affecting many people, e.g. daddy and wai wai. So it takes me a while to consider a full time job. After all the encouragement from daddy, po po and friends, only I decide to go back to work again.


1) Personal time
SAHM: Even through staying at home, but it doesn’t mean you have your personal time. The schedule is full, learn how to make use of time.
FTWM: Financial Use money from own saving or daddy sponsor, so have to be careful on every single cent I spend. Of course is better to have a stable income lah! Can make decision on how to spend money, can plan a better education for my son, can plan for oversea annual trip and etc.

2) Job satisfaction
SAHM: Can only work while wai wai went to bed, so normally try to finish the job fast fast by produce the design as simple as possible.
FTWM: Can concentrate on work and produce better quality design, and have time to learn more. More job satisfaction.

3) Energy
SAHM: Very tired by taking care my son, he is a super active boy.
FTWM: Even through I worked 2 shift (morning in office and night as nanny), but not as bad as working full time nanny.

4) Wai Wai
SAHM: Can wake up later, and no need to travel around. But sometime a bit boring, because can only play with mommy, so he miss daddy more.
FTWM: Now he miss mommy more, but he get to meet and learn more things from other people.

5) Daddy
SAHM: More freedom, but also more “bills” to pay.
FTWM: Have to help mommy to do house work on the weekend. And can share the “bills” with mommy also.

6) Relationship with Daddy
SAHM: Too tired to talk to daddy, or some time wai wai disturbing.
FTWM: We enjoy going to work together, we can chit chat during traffic jam, sometime have breakfast together and etc. We spend more time together and have new topic to talk about, e.g. work and "more" wai wai's story.

7) TV programme
SAHM: Never miss my favorite TV program on Astro.
FTWM: Always missed my favorite TV program and even recorded the program, I can’t find time to watch it.

8) Food
SAHM: Always eat home cook food only, only weekend daddy will bring mommy and wai wai out for meal.
FTWM: Everyday can have different food, Malay, Chinese, western and etc. Until dun know what to eat already.

9) Outfit
SAHM: My mom said I look like auntie.
FTWM: Like fashion show everyday, have more reason to buy cloths.

10) Priority
SAHM: My son
FTWM: Still my son, this will never change.

Conclusion is I did not regret to quit from my previous job for having a baby, and be a stay-at-home-mom (or rather a work-at-home-mom) with Wai Wai until he turn one and a half year old. Now I feel I should go back to work, to continue my career. But if any time Wai Wai need mommy, I will quit my job with no question ask.

Also see what CutiePricessMummy said about this.

A for apple!

Last week, as usual after work, we had dinner at my mom house. While we eating, my mom carry wai wai over, and ask him: “A for?”, then wai wai answer “apple!”. Me and daddy so shock! We can’t believe our ear, we ask wai wai again, “Wai Wai, A for?”, wai wai answer again “apple”. Me and daddy are so happy and proud of our son, he is only 21 months old and he is able to answer this type of question. And also a BIG THANKS to wesley (my brother’s son, 13 year old) who always teach Wai Wai so many things. After 2 days later, Wai Wai is able to answer “B for Bus” and "C for Car".

Happy learning, my baby!

Back to work 开工囉!

I when back to work again loh! Back to a 9 to 5 working life. Being a full time working mum is not as easy as I through, I have been struggling for a while to get myself settle down.

During that one month+ transaction period, many things need to adjust accordingly. Especially my poor little baby - wai wai, he needs to wake up very early or if he is still asleep, I will carry him very gentle, and try not to wake him up, and let him sleep until we reach my mom’s house (try to let him sleep a few more minutes).

In the evening (once the sky is dark) he will be very impatience, waiting for us to bring him home. He gets very excited when the phone rings (because we usually call before we reach there), if my mom put down the phone without letting him talk to me, he will be very angry. So far my mom said he is ok with the new adjustment, morning and afternoon has no problem, only in the evening if we go back late, wai wai will start make noise, and keep asking my mom to bring him outside. But because I am car pool with hubby, he finish work at around 6 something, by the time he reach my office is around 7pm, then reach my mom house about 8pm.

Normally we have a quick dinner at my mom’s house, and then only we bring wai wai home. By the time we reach home is almost 9pm, so is time to prepare wai wai to sleep. So we left about 1 hour to play with him, feed him milk before he goes to bed.

When comes to weekend, we try to spend more time with wai wai, and do some house work as well.

Wai Wai & Daddy

You can always see daddy with his smiling face whever he talks about his son. This lovely father and son can really make mommy jealous sometime.

I remember Wai Wai’s first word is “dad-dad-dad….” when he was 10 months old.

In the morning, Wai wai will take sock for daddy when daddy goes to work. In the evening, when wai wai heard the main gate open, he will be very excited and run to the glass window, and see if daddy is coming home. If he saw daddy, he will wave and call “dad-dad”, and then run to the wooden door, to open the door for daddy. When daddy came in, he will stick to daddy wherever daddy go, even follow daddy to the toilet (outside the toilet of course). Then when daddy sits down, Wai Wai will carry slippers to daddy.

When Wai Wai saw daddy sleeping on the floor, he will take all the pillows to daddy, I mean “ALL”, including his own small pillows, until daddy said “enough, enough already”.

… That’s why Wai Wai is always daddy loving boy!

“Happy Father’s Day … Daddy !”

Long waited letter

Today Company “D” inform me that they had received the approval from their regional office on my job application (because I will be reporting to the regional office). Now they will release the offer letter to me. (Hai~ big company normally has so many procedures) Without delay, I tell them I will be there in one hour time, rushing from Semenyih (customer’s office) to PJ.

Finally I collected my offer letter, WHAT? Just one page? I ask them I was expecting more information will be given together with the offer letter, e.g. the Package, Benefit, company R&R and etc. They told me the information will be giving to me on the first day I report to work (so to say, by then I have no choice to accept whatever is written there, hai~). Anyway, just have to hope for the best.

At lease now I had secured the job, I can inform Company “R” that I am not reconsidering their offer anymore (malu…dragged them again for another week).

A little excited to go back to work, after more then 2 years not working as a full time basis. The first reaction from daddy is “Good lah, starting tonite mommy dun scold me anymore!” eh where got?! Got meh?? You know I am in bad mood, then dun kacau me lah, if so, too bad lah.

Wai Wai's sleeping pattern

Wai Wai is a very active boy, he is the type of children that not easy to go to bed, but very easy to awake (because he is too use to quiet environment). Once he’s awake he will never sleep back again. And I can only do some work after he go to sleep, so his sleeping time is always my concern, to make sure there is minimum disturbance, especially during his afternoon nap. The neighbor’s dog barking, Ice-cream man and gas deliver van will always make me nervous. Even my freelance customer call me, the first thing they will ask if my son is sleeping, and then they will whisper over the phone (haha….how can wai wai hear their voice over the phone???)

If Wai Wai wake up and saw me working on the computer, he will be very excited, and want to play with my computer. Therefore if I notice he has any sign of waking up, I quickly jump to my bed (like the movie: Mission Impossible) and pretend sleeping with him. Then there will be chances that he will sleep again for another half or 1 hour.

Wai Wai transfer to a single bed from a cot when he start knock his head or hand on the side of the cot when he turn 1 year old. So we put a 3 and a half feet single bed next to our bed so that he had enough space to turn. He has many type of sleeping position, sometime he can even change position like every 10 minutes. So is very hard to put blanket on him.

Sometime in the middle of the night, he will climb up to my bed and sleep at my back side or stomach. And I dare not move, until he fall to sleep again, then I slowly carry him to his bed again. Or he might climb to my pillow, and take over my place, I have to give way, and sleep at his bed. I remember one time he came to sleep at my pillow, and knocked his head to my mouth, my mouth were bleeding. So now, when I notice he got this kind of intention, I will use my hand to protect my mouth first. (poor mommy, ya?!)

There is one incident that I’ll never forget, one night I was working on my freelance project in the study room, my son and my hubby were sleeping in the master room. Normally I’ll let the door open a little bit, so that as and when I can come in to check on Wai Wai without making any noise. So that night as usual, I go and check on Wai Wai, I found he is not at his bed and the door was open wide big, then I quickly wake my hubby up, and find Wai Wai. Then I found him at the staircase, walking down to ground floor, guess he is looking for me. Luckily nothing happen to him, if he falls down from the staircase, I will never forgive myself. From there onwards, I always keep the door close or work in the master room, even through I need to work in the dark.

Last time I use to sing him songs before he go to sleep. I will be his “Human Jukebox” (人肉点唱机), he will chose the song he like to listen. If he doesn’t like that song, he will make noise and want me to change song. Even through it is tiring, but I enjoy doing it (lovely mommy…haha).

"Wai Wai practicing Yoga before go to bed ... hehe"

"Wai Wai like to see his favorite show: Barney & friend, when he wake up."